With so many people now online dating it is not a surprise that online affairs have increased as well – and they bring their own set of separate problems.
What kinds of things do people get up to online?
- Sending cheating emails
- Writing flirting and cheating messages in chat rooms
- Sending cheating messages by instant messaging
- Sending photos by email
- Having secret conversations through Skype
- Finding people even through online gaming
One woman I spoke to found out that her husband had been using online porn sites with his affair partner interactively – they had been looking for pictures of what they would like to do to each other. Some, like my ex, aren’t happy with just one ‘other person.’ Instead they troll the online dating sites pretending to be single. Mine had three online dating profiles that I could find – one with a straight dating site, and two profiles on ‘hook-up’ dating sites. I found emails and dirty photos of himself that he had sent to women he said he had never met.
Some online affairs just stay virtual – they may progress to cybersex or graphic emails and photos. For other cheating partners the appeal is the emotional side – they have an emotional affair, believing they love this person they have never met. Your partner may feel like they can be their ‘real selves’ online with this person. Right now, they can’t talk to you, but to this other fantasy person they can.
For my ex, he took it a step further and the online trolling, became real life affairs. He progressed to phone calls and dirty texts with these women and admitted to meeting one of them (although he claimed ‘nothing happened’). So online affairs (both sexual and emotional) can progress to physical affairs too.
Click here, if you want to read more about the signs of online affairs and the ways to uncover them.
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