Finding Proof of an Online Affair

You’ve seen the signs of your partner having an online affair, and now you want some proof to bust them with.  You are tired of them spending late nights on the computer, them being home but not really present as they engage with whoever it is on the other end of the Web.  It’s awful to feel rejected – how can you (in flesh and blood) be replaced by a computer screen?

Some people, especially after they get caught, say having an online affair isn’t “real” cheating. I told my ex-wife when I caught her cheating online that the time and energy and money she was taking away from our family and spending on the other man were plenty real.

Doug, who broke up with his wife over an online affair

You’ve seen the signs  So what do you do next?  Your first instinct might be to confront your cheater.  You want to demand what they are up to.  In most cases this is the wrong thing to do. If your partner is in the fog of an affair, they will do what they can to protect their new situation – and like Doug’s wife above, people having online affairs can be even more in denial, as they like to argue that nothing has really happened.

If you don’t have proof, they will sweet talk you around and then bury the signs of the affair even more.  The best chance you have to find out what is really going on and get solid proof of what your partner is up to, is before you confront them.  I know sneaking around is not your usual style of dealing with things, but this is not a usual situation.

So choose the option that best describes what you need: